This was my post on MomHeart today. Several years ago, it also appeared here but has since been updated. I trust it will be a blessing as you reflect on the gift of friendship in your life.
Several years ago at a pivotal moment my heart was shattered because I selfishly wanted a friendship to remain the way it was…comfortable and safe. A sea of tears were shed and several brutally honest and gut-wrenching conversations ensued until finally, I decided my friendship was more important than getting my way. Only one other person knows the full story and that is my midnight friend who inspired this musing. To my friend I say, I love you deeper than you know and stronger than I can show.
To our readers: Perhaps you will see some of your own friendships through this entry.
In a world where it is increasingly harder to find anything that remains constant, there is a relationship, we call friendship, which intrigues, humbles, and baffles me all at the same time. Friendship is perhaps the most fascinating yet complex relationship we share with our fellow human beings. It is a chosen relationship. In most cases, there is no blood running through the veins of the participants which naturally draws them together. There is a commitment shared by two people that can transcend family relationships, biases, prejudices, and other things that often keep people apart. Yet, when exactly does it happen? When are those magical moments where two strangers become acquaintances and acquaintances become friends and friends become bonded by something not even death can separate?
Do you ever wonder about the very essence of friendship? Why is it important in our lives? How does it enrich our existence? How and when is it born? And how does it happen that two people come together, through a myriad of circumstances, and silently pledge to each other a deep and abiding commitment found in few other relationships? Very few people seek friendships out. Most find it almost accidentally as a byproduct of some other aspect of their lives. Two people sharing the same heart and passion for a job or a cause suddenly find themselves in sync with each other in areas beyond that thing which brought them together.
What fascinates me is analyzing why some friendships stick and others don’t. Why is it that some fall apart at the sight of a conflict? Why are some shattered when there is a betrayal of trust or a misunderstood action? Are there friendships that actually last for a lifetime and what decides those that do last from those that don’t? The Bible has much to say about friendship. If we, as God’s people, are to pattern our lives according to the Bible and the examples it holds for us, then perhaps we should learn all we can about friendship from the source of unending and unbending truth. Clearly, there are responsibilities for each party in a friendship. I would encourage you to do a word study on friendship in the Bible. The book of Proverbs has much to say about friendship. God obviously cares about the relationships between friends.
The very existence of the relationship is a gracious gift from the Creator.
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